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Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of such things God’s wrath comes on those who are disobedient. Therefore do not be partners with them.

Ephesians 5:6-7

If you are a family, you probably share meals with each other. By eating together, you symbolise that you share the same values. In terms of material possessions, a couple shares ownership of the family house. Friends would share friendship; student-peers would share certain knowledge. Then, God’s people, who are his dearly loved children, share the promise in Christ (3:6). This is the total opposite of ‘vain words’ (v. 6), which we very often do not take seriously. But Paul admonishes that we need to look out for these, as they do NOT belong to God. We need to actively push away harsh jokes, talking behind each other’s backs, badmouthing, etc. If we say we are children of God and keep these, it is as good as making our God into a false god. Prove that he is not by turning your words into thanksgiving!

Lord, let me consciously turn my complaints and contempt into words and thoughts of thanksgiving today because I am your child.

• Why do you think people tend to feel they are bonding when they are mutually badmouthing someone or complaining about something together? What do you think the psychology behind it is?

• What do you think is the pitfall there?

• What sentiment do you think you may still preserve from those conversations as believers? How might badmouthing or complaining be transformed in your conversations?